Dear Lue,
Recently my hook-up and I have been seeing each other more often, and I have been really in my head about having clumsy or awkward sex. Any advice for how to deal?
Anonymous
Hey Anonymous,
The truth is, clumsy or awkward sex is really common and happens a lot more than we’ve been made to think. We tend to think of it as bad because we have been told that it’s not how sex is supposed to go, but it can be intimate and passionate while simultaneous being clumsy or messy or maybe even awkward. Being able to laugh together at a position you are not nailing or a funny noise one of you has made when you are lying with another person can be extremely intimate. Clumsy or awkward sex is rarely as bad as it’s been made out to be, and it happens with hookups and long-term partners alike. Sex is experimental; it’s not a show, and there’s no one you are performing this for. Sometimes it takes experimenting to figure out what feels good for the people involved. Naturally, there’s going to be some clumsiness involved;it’s all just a part of sex, and to be honest, it’s a large part of the fun.
Lue
Dear Lue,
I want to switch from the pill to the birth control implant Nexplanon. What are the pros and cons of the arm implant? It sounds almost too good to be true… is it?
Anonymous
Hey Anonymous,
The arm implant is a small piece of hormone-infused plastic that rests under the skin of your arm for 3-4 years. The implant, like all forms of birth control, has some pros and cons. Choosing birth control is extremely subjective and really depends on choosing a method that can fit your current lifestyle. For example, I would not recommend the pill for a person who cannot stick to a schedule extremely regularly. Some of the pros of the implant include continuous protection against pregnancy for 3-4 years; there’s nothing to remember to take so if you struggle with taking medicine on a schedule, this would be a good option. Additionally, there is an easy insertion/removal process, so it can be easily reversible if there are any unwanted side effects. Speaking of side effects, some of the cons of the implant include some common ones associated with a hormonal method: persistent irregular bleeding, acne, mood fluctuation, and increased appetite. As with all side effects, it is important to note that not every person who gets the implant will experience them: one person may have absolutely none at all and another may have three of them. The important thing is to experiment and find the method that best works with your body and your life. If the pill is not fitting your standards and you are curious about other methods of contraception, my advice is to talk to a physician and go ahead and try what feels right!
Lue
